So what is love?
A friend asked me that question lately. She was having problems with her boyfriend. Her boyfriend couldn't spend much time with her due to his work commitments and even sms and calls to my gf is a challenge to him. She has a problem with that but the guy don't think there is a problem. I advised my girlfriend that if she loves him, she needs to sort this out and stand by his boyfriend. And she asked me back, "What is Love?"
I couldn't answer that question immediately and was dumbfounded for a moment. I have difficulties evaluating the meaning of love. Does liking someone necessarily lead to love? Recently, I got to know this guy. We met up a few times and although the time I knew him was short, I really like him. He said to me that he like me too but he doesn't seem to find out stuff about me or try to get to know me better. I wanted to know him better but found it hard to do so as he doesn't open up to me whenever I talk to him. I started to wonder if he has some secrets that he didn't want me to know or its his character that he does not open up easily to people. That day, I told him that I really like him and he matters a lot to me. He seemed pleased to know that but did not reveal how he felt about me exactly. I was a bit upset and then realised that maybe he is not that into me. A friend once told me never let a guy know that you are interested in him or else his ego will get bigger and feel pretty smug about it. I guess it was a mistake to tell him. He must be feeling damn good to know some girl likes him. There is no point in liking someone who is not keen in knowing you better and only wants to have fun with you. Maybe he was just patronizing me? Hmm......I know its wierd to like someone in such a short period of time but what attracts two person to each other is the chemistry. Maybe what we had was that instant chemistry and nothing more.....it really takes two hands to clap. Only time will tell whether things will take a different turn between us.
A major turn of events .....coming soon....3 Aug 2008 3:50pm
4 comments:
Sometimes, a person don't share doesn't mean that he/she doesn't like you.
And let's say he starts sharing, and you found out things that you don't really like, do you continue to like him or you will be slowly deducting marks off? maybe he is just afraid of that.
of course there could be a possibility that he is just patronising you, but I am sure you will be able to tell...unless you are not blinded by love yet! :)
Loving a person requires a little give and take. As for your friend, I suppose she is the best person to judge if the bf is true to her or not. Maybe the guy feels that their relationship is stable enough and it is the time to focus on his career. It's good that a guy is willing to strive for his career of course and not knowing another gal at his workplace.
Actually I don't expect him to tell me everything.....at least a little more conversation? That's how a basic friendship starts. If two persons don't even try to know each other better, how do you get on from there?
Maybe he is not a good conversationalist...is he like that too when he smses?
cos i did have this guy friend who can talk about everything under the sky when we sms but when we meet up, he behave as if we r match-making. haha...
if he is still like that after some time, maybe u shld reconsider...
You might be right....he is not very talkative. Even in sms and in person, his replies are usaully brief unless we are talking about something that is of interest to him......
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